I wrote these earlier this year on my journey to facing my Elephant and owning my story of shame, guilt and fear. I am sharing these with you to let you know that you are not alone. That owning our stories is the key to loving ourselves and to our success in our personal and professional life. Most importantly beneath your elephant lies love and courage. This is my Elephant Story.

I would like to share something with you.

I am a survivor of sexual abuse. I know that this information may shock you a bit and that you may need some time to digest it. Well that’s not all… I have decided to share my story with the world.

Yes I will be telling the world that I am a survivor of child sexual abuse. When I was a little girl, a  cousin did inappropriate things to me which has left scars… lots of scars.

I didn’t say anything about it and didn’t talk to anyone about it until now. It took me 27 years to be strong enough to talk about this and to find the courage to write you this letter.

I know what you’re thinking. What am I doing telling the world such a thing? Am I crazy?

No, I’m not- crazy that is- but I am tired of living in shame, guilt and fear. I would like to start having real conversations about the things that are affecting  us women and girls.

The things that often get in the way of achieving success in our personal and professional lives.

I decided to break my silence because:

  • I needed to stop hiding behind the shame, pain and ugliness of what happened to me.
  • I do not want another girl to go through what I went through.
  •  I needed to tell my story so that we can have a safer community and a safer place for young girls.
  •  I didn’t want my pain, my ugliness and my shame to control and define my goals and my life.
  •  I wanted to use my story to let other women know that they are not alone.
  • I wanted to share my story in the hopes of inspiring and encouraging other women to own their story and to start living authentic lives.
  • I wanted women to be free of the burden of shame, fear and guilt that is often associated with our stories.

I am tired of crying, of living in pain, in shame, fear and guilt.

It’s time for us to join hands and to support each other. It’s time for us to talk about the things that are whispered about in our community. It is time for us to encourage each other. Help each other through our pain, shame and hurt by talking about our elephant.

It’s time to celebrate who we are and  to love who we are, as we are.  It’s time to live the life we always imagined. Yes, our parents didn’t talk openly about a lot of things, but we can.

We have been given a great opportunity to be a voice for the generation coming after us. We can change things… we can make things better for ourselves which in turn will make things better for the millions of girls who are suffering in this world.

I am about to start my Naked Journey… I do hope that you will join me.

With love and blessings…


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